This post is made in a collaboration with Leyla Leech.
Living in a stress-free home where everyone is free to express themselves is vital for having a strong relationship. But with all the hustle and bustle of everyday activities that you are involved in, having a lovely and peaceful environment might seem like an unfulfillable wish. This is especially true if your relationship is with a mail order bride, a person whom you have not fully gotten acquainted with.
To get the most out of your relationship or marriage to your bride, you have to make the environment conducive. To achieve this ideal environment in your relationship, you should make use of the following tips:
- Agree With Your Partner
The relationship is not about you alone. It involves you and your significant other and so, you have to talk to your partner about what they think the ideal environment should be for your relationship. You should both exchange ideas and reach a common ground on what a conducive environment means for both of you.
- Be Intentional About Your Relationships with Others
A great way to set your relationship up to enjoy the perks of a lovely environment is to get rid of all the unnecessary activities that add stress to your lives. If this means limiting the time you spend hanging out with your friends or your extended family, then do it. If your relationship will blossom, you need to set boundaries for other relationships and always put your partner first. At first, this may seem like a daunting task but with time, you will realize how much of a difference it can make. With fewer intrusions from human relationships outside the one you have with your partner, there will be less friction between you and your partner.
- Incorporate New Activities in the Relationship
This is where self-care comes in. Self-care is very important if you are going to have a stable mental health. Without a stable mental health, issues will abound in your relationship. This is why you should focus on taking care of yourself to become a better person.
You can become a better person by:
- Learning new things pertaining to maintaining good health, healthy relationships, e.t.c. You can do this with your spouse as it will yield even better results and strengthen your bond.
- Doing what you enjoy.
- Reading.
- Exercising.
- Eating good food.
- Watching a movie.
- Making wholesome friends.
One of the good things about self-care is that when you take care of yourself, it will become easier to take care of your partner too as it becomes something you are used to. You can only love your partner as much as you love yourself.
- Put Your Finances In Order
Money-related issues are very sensitive ones in relationships. Discussing your finances with your partner shows them that you trust them with something sensitive and important. Make long and short-term investment plans with your partner. These plans (when followed through with) can bring about stability in the relationship. If all goes well, you may opt to get a joint bank account with your partner, although it is not compulsory.
- Do Things Together
There is nothing that bonds couples more than doing activities together and sharing a healthy love for life. It is recommended that you eat, sleep, shower and exercise together. You should also go on adventures together and do things that you are both scared of together. Your relationship will do better with a feeling of togetherness so doing things that make you feel connected and safer around each other will create a healthier environment.
- Be Considerate
Relationships are not one-sided so before doing or saying anything, you first have to think of how it will make your partner feel. You have to be sensitive to your partner’s reactions and always pay attention to their needs. What may seem trivial to you may be very important to them.
Listen when they talk; always to respond and not to react. Apologize when you are wrong, don’t undermine their opinions, and always try to make them feel good. Consider them in everything you do and you will have a lovelier environment in your relationship.
- Change your Physical Environment Regularly
Changing your environment will help you see things differently because when you are on a vacation, you will have fun and create memories. However, you can’t go on a vacation everyday so you could try ‘mini vacations’ instead. Here are some mini vacation tips:
- Attend concerts.
- Travel to places that are not too far from your home, but far enough to get a new experience.
- Try out new restaurants
An additional tip is to always keep the bedroom clean and experiment with new sheets and curtains. You can also repaint occasionally.
- Be Sensitive to your Partner
You have to be conscious of your partner and all they do. Now, this is not a clarion call to become possessive or overprotective, instead it is an advice to become more aware of how your partner feels. You have to consciously focus your attention on your partner so that they don’t begin to feel left out of your life. You have to consciously let them know that they are important to you. You can do this by finding out what their love language is and speaking it.
- Be Organized
Don’t live on impromptu plans. There is a huge difference between spontaneity and disorganization and spontaneity is necessary to have a healthy relationship. Plan your day, your week, your month, and in your plans, set aside as much time as possible for your partner.
Let your partner have access to your schedule so that they are aware of what your next steps are. Doing this brings freedom and you don’t get to deal with the anxiety that comes with feeling like you are missing out on something.
- Be Humble
In your relationship, if you are always the right one then you may be stifling your partner’s opinions. Learn how to realize that relationships are not all about winning. Relationships are partnerships and you have to always act accordingly.
Don’t think of yourself to be better than your partner. If pride creeps into your relationship, then you may as well be sitting on a ticking bomb. Letting go of your pride could mean the difference between building a lasting relationship and falling like a pack of cards.
The Bottom Line
Be intentional about creating the right kind of environment for your relationship to blossom in. Reading these tips is a great way to start this journey. However, please make sure you act on what you’ve learned and tweak it to suit your relationship.
