This isn’t my usual post, but let’s take a break from the norm today. If you’ve been following along, you know I love giving practical advice, but sometimes, life’s bigger questions need our attention. Recently, a close friend asked me, “How do you really know if you’re ready to get married?”
That simple question sparked some deep reflection.
Why You Need to Be Prepared Before Getting Married
Marriage is one of the most significant commitments you can make in your life, and being prepared for it is crucial.
Did you know that nearly 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce? This staggering statistic highlights the importance of being fully prepared before saying, “I do.” Marriage is more than just a romantic commitment; it’s a complex partnership that requires emotional readiness, financial understanding, and shared values.
Being prepared means knowing what you’re getting into. It involves deep discussions with your partner about your future, your finances, and your expectations. Without this preparation, the challenges of marriage can quickly become overwhelming, leading to conflict and, potentially, to the same fate as many others.
This is why in Japan, the tradition of omiai—or Japanese marriage introductions —has long been a respected practice. It’s a way for couples to enter into marriage with a clear understanding of each other’s background, values, and life goals.
By ensuring compatibility from the start, omiai serves as a foundation for a successful, long-lasting partnership, something that could benefit couples everywhere.
Signs Your Are Ready For Marriage
Marriage is a huge decision—it’s more than just planning a wedding or picking out the perfect dress. It’s about committing to a partnership that lasts a lifetime. But how do you know if you’re truly ready? Let’s dig into it.
1. Are You Comfortable Being Yourself Around Them?
Before you think about walking down the aisle, ask yourself: Can you truly be yourself around your partner? Marriage is about being with someone who loves the real you—not just the version of yourself that’s all smiles on date night. If you feel like you can be honest, show your quirks, and still be loved, that’s a big green light.
2. Have You Had the Tough Conversations?
We all love the idea of romance, but marriage also involves practicalities—money, kids, career plans, and where you’re going to live. Have you had those important conversations? If you haven’t, now’s the time. These talks aren’t always easy, but they’re necessary. If you can navigate these discussions without major blow-ups, it’s a good sign you’re on solid ground.
3. Do You Share Core Values?
You don’t have to agree on everything, but sharing core values is essential. If you’re on the same page about what really matters—like family, faith, and future goals—it helps build a strong foundation for your marriage. It’s these shared values that will guide you through the inevitable ups and downs.
4. Can You Handle Conflict Together?
Every couple experiences conflict, but how you handle it can make or break your relationship. It’s not about avoiding arguments; it’s about how you navigate them. Do your disagreements lead to better understanding and growth, or do they leave lasting scars? The ability to resolve conflicts in a healthy and constructive way is essential for any marriage. It’s a sign that you can face challenges together, reinforcing your bond instead of weakening it.
Handling conflict well shows that both partners can communicate effectively, listen to each other’s perspectives, and find solutions that work for both. This is the essence of a strong marriage—working together to overcome obstacles, no matter how difficult they may be.
5. Are You Both Ready to Put in the Work?
Marriage isn’t always easy. It takes effort, compromise, and a whole lot of patience. Are you both ready to work through the tough times? If you’re both committed to making the relationship work, even when it’s hard, that’s a strong indicator that you’re ready for marriage.
6. Does the Idea of Forever Feel Exciting, Not Scary?
Finally, think about the idea of spending the rest of your life with this person. Does it fill you with excitement, or does it make you nervous? A little bit of fear is normal, but if the thought of forever feels right, you might just be ready to take that big step.
Bottom Line: Are You Ready?
Only you can truly answer that question. Marriage is a beautiful journey, but it’s not one to rush into. Take your time, think about what you want, and be honest with yourself and your partner. If you feel ready, go for it—but if you need more time, that’s okay too. This decision is one of the most important ones you’ll ever make, so make sure it’s the right one for you.
And remember, it’s okay if you’re not 100% sure. Life doesn’t come with guarantees, but if you and your partner are willing to face whatever comes your way, together, you’re already on the right track.
